Well, hmmm! How to begin? The gap between grandparents and grandkids is quite wide. If you think about it, grandparents grew up with seeing the world in real time, NOT on a Wii, X-Box or Smart Phone.
They went out of the house and stayed out until dinner was ready or mother/father was calling their name. They saw, they touched and felt things, dug in the dirt, played kick-ball, got dirty and enjoyed it.
Today the young kids are playing INSIDE with their Wii and X-Box and missing what could be seen, what could be found, what could be imagined.
I remember, when I was young, I went outside for hours on end. My imagination really made my day fun and exciting. We made up games and divided the neighborhood kids into two groups and went on to play this really cool spy game.
The question is: How do we get our grandkids to see what we have seen and learn how fun it could be? How do we NOT bore them with the past and build a stronger relationship?
Grandkids can be very non-communicative with the grandparents and it’s sometimes difficult to build that bridge.
First thing, please don’t pounce on them straight away and speak to them with questions rather than a nice daily conversation. Ask them about “how they are” ask them “about their friends” and see if they want a friend to come over. Ask them if they can teach you how to do something tech-wise.
Get involved on their level and then ask them to spend a moment with you outside the house or plan an event together whether it be lunch, dinner or a vacation. It takes only a moment to get the attention of your grandchild BUT don’t overdo it with long drawn out stories from the past.
Try to make it fun and make jokes about yourself, laugh at yourself. The grandkids love to see that; they will laugh as well. You will see that your bridge is getting stronger. Here are some fun ideas you can do to help build and strengthen your bond with your Grandkids.
Building Bridges with Grandkids
- Make a “Conversation Jar” You will each put five pieces of paper with five different words or something that interest you. Each week or each time you see each other, one of will pick a piece of paper out of the jar. Now, who will get to pull the paper out of the jar? Take turns, or play rock–paper-scissor, whatever you like. Each piece has something you like, something you may want to do, and something you want the other person to learn. It can be simple, like a favorite movie or game, etc. You get it, yes? Start talking.
- Text your GRANDKIDS!!! Yes, I said it. Text them! It truly helps with your relationship. It can be one word “hello” or “how r u?” They will text back!
- Go to a movie with them or rent one! Let them choose the movie or both of you look together. You will see a smile!
- Play a Car Game! When driving in the car with your grandkids, ask them to solve math problems, history questions, it can be anything, up to you. If they get the answer correct, they can win an ice-cream or a friend sleep-over. You decide, its fun to make the rules up with the grandkids.
- Get to know their friends! Ask to meet them. Trust me, this really helps to build your relationship. You actually learn more when their friends are near, believe or not. The kids really like having friends over or going with them somewhere together. It works! Try it.
I hope I have helped some. You can learn a lot from your grandkids and vice-versa. Just keep plugging along BUT don’t push. The strongest relationships sometimes take the most time.
How do you build a strong relationship with your grandkids?
What’s your biggest challenge in finding common ground with today’s kids?
Please leave your thoughts in the comments section below!
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